Dating can be a complicated thing and I must admit that I do not have much experience in the dating department. When disability is added to the mix things can become even more complicated due to the misconceptions that much of society still holds about people with disabilities. I am visually impaired and I do not believe that disability should be a dealbreaker when it comes to dating.
A disability does not define a person, it is only one aspect of a person. I think that if more people took the time to research and ask questions and were more understanding they would have more of an open mind on this issue. Unfortunately people with disabilities either get pushed aside or get taken advantage of in these situations making it unsafe to take part in dating. I think that the misconceptions play a large role in this problem and this must change.
People with disabilities must be treated with the same respect as people without disabilities, they are worthy of love and friendship. I do not think that disability should be the main reason when deciding whether or not to date someone. For example, if I was dating I would be open to dating a sighted person or a blind person as long as our values matched. I would be open to dating someone with any disability. I think that people can get stuck when considering the possible advantages and disadvantages that come with an interabled relationship. The fact is that there will be challenges but when you love someone you will learn to work as a team and overcome those challenges.
Here are some tips that I would give myself if I went on a date.
- Meet at a place that is familiar to you, preferably a restaurant. If you want more security, have family or friends eat at the restaurant at the same time at a separate table so you will have privacy but have a back up plan if something goes wrong.
- If you have specific needs, discuss this with your date before meeting so there will be no surprises and be honest holding nothing back.
- Have an open mind and be willing to learn. Where there is a will there’s a way.
These are just some of my thoughts on this topic. I don’t have much personal experience as I said but I think that it is time for people with disabilities to be included in every aspect of society.