Reflections: Encouragement for the Single Season

Text reads Reflections encouragement for the single season. Have fun on valentine's day. Text is in red on a white background.

Today I want to speak to the single people out there. I am here to say that it is okay to be single on Valentine’s Day. This time of the year can be hard for some people when they are the only one alone and everyone else seems to have a boyfriend or girlfriend or husband or wife. The truth is that it is better to be single than to be with someone that is not the best fit for you. 

I am single myself but i am someone that does not make a big deal about Valentine’s Day. I think that you should treat every day like Valentine’s Day in a relationship. 

The reality is that you do not need to be in a relationship to be happy, you can learn to enjoy spending time with yourself and spend this time preparing for a relationship. You can’t rely on someone else to make you happy or to fill your life. I am a Christian and I believe that this only comes from God. 

I struggle with being single at times and it can discouraging some days but I lean on God for encouragement along the way.

So if you struggle being single on Valentine’s Day try to do these things to help you get through the day.

  • Remember you are not alone. God loves you and cares for every aspect of your life. Spend some extra time with God on that day.
  • Get yourself your favorite sweet treat.
  • Spend time doing your favorite thing.

Remember being single gives you more time and freedom to do your own thing on your own time. When you are in a relationship you have to adapt your schedule to fit the other person in and things will not be the same anymore. Enjoy this season of being single so you can then enjoy a relationship.

This passage from 1 Corinthians chapter 7 is encouraging to me as it reminds me to stop focusing on the fact that i am single and to instead focus on God as time is short.

1 Corinthians 7:25-40 KJV — Now concerning virgins I have no commandment of the Lord: yet I give my judgment, as one that hath obtained mercy of the Lord to be faithful. I suppose therefore that this is good for the present distress, I say, that it is good for a man so to be. Art thou bound unto a wife? seek not to be loosed. Art thou loosed from a wife? seek not a wife. But and if thou marry, thou hast not sinned; and if a virgin marry, she hath not sinned. Nevertheless such shall have trouble in the flesh: but I spare you. But this I say, brethren, the time is short: it remaineth, that both they that have wives be as though they had none; And they that weep, as though they wept not; and they that rejoice, as though they rejoiced not; and they that buy, as though they possessed not; And they that use this world, as not abusing it: for the fashion of this world passeth away. But I would have you without carefulness. He that is unmarried careth for the things that belong to the Lord, how he may please the Lord: But he that is married careth for the things that are of the world, how he may please his wife. There is difference also between a wife and a virgin. The unmarried woman careth for the things of the Lord, that she may be holy both in body and in spirit: but she that is married careth for the things of the world, how she may please her husband. And this I speak for your own profit; not that I may cast a snare upon you, but for that which is comely, and that ye may attend upon the Lord without distraction. But if any man think that he behaveth himself uncomely toward his virgin, if she pass the flower of her age, and need so require, let him do what he will, he sinneth not: let them marry. Nevertheless he that standeth stedfast in his heart, having no necessity, but hath power over his own will, and hath so decreed in his heart that he will keep his virgin, doeth well. So then he that giveth her in marriage doeth well; but he that giveth her not in marriage doeth better. The wife is bound by the law as long as her husband liveth; but if her husband be dead, she is at liberty to be married to whom she will; only in the Lord. But she is happier if she so abide, after my judgment: and I think also that I have the Spirit of God.

This devotional has encouraged me when I struggle with being single and I hope it will encourage you as well.

Reflections: True Love

A red heart appears in the center. Text that appears across the heart reads Reflections true love

Love, this word seems to be thrown around a lot. When we hear the word love we probably immediately think of a romantic relationship especially now in February with Valentine’s day coming up. The truth is that love is much more than that. There is the love of a parent, the love of a brother or sister or the love of a friend. The most important love of all is the love of God. 

When you do not feel love from anyone you can find that love by looking to God. For God loved you first.

John 3:16 KJV — For God so loved the world, that he gave his only begotten Son, that whosoever believeth in him should not perish, but have everlasting life.

A relationship will not provide the love that truly fills your heart, only the love of God is enough to fill your heart. The only way you can love another person is if you truly experience love yourself and that is only found in God. People think they can find it from within or from someone else or from material items but none of that works.

Any love that you have in you was put there by God. The way a mother loves her newborn, that love comes from God, when a husband truly honors his wife, that comes from God.

God is the source of true love and running from him will only lead to tragedy at the end. So for those that feel alone today please remember you are not alone. God loves you and wants to fill you with his love and prepare you to give that love to others around you.

I hope that you look to God first for love instead of continuing to look in all the wrong places and he will lead you to the best place you should be in life.

Reflections: A Time to Reset

reflections a time to reset image shows a scene of a mountain under a sunset

Happy New Year everyone! We have made it to a new year. 2020 was definitely a very hard year. I know that the turning of the clock to a new year does not mean that things will change in an instant but I think that this time that we take to celebrate the coming of a new year can help us all have a reset.

I know that nothing has changed on January 1st but we should take this time to stop and get rid of bad habits and start on a clean slate. You may not have accomplished a goal last yearbut do not let failure keep you down. This year, get back up and start again. 

Make this year the year you leave the past in the past and look ahead to the future. Each new year brings new opportunities to retry and have a redo. You are alive today, this means that you have been given the chance by God to reset and start over.

I am reminded of this verse in 2 Corinthians Chapter 5 verse 17. I hope this encourages you today. You can have a reset when you come to Jesus Christ. He will make you new.

2 Corinthians 5:17 KJV — Therefore if any man be in Christ, he is a new creature: old things are passed away; behold, all things are become new.

Photo Source: The background image not including the text is by David McEachan via Pexels

Reflections: A Life of Gratitude

Image information appears at the end of the post.

This month is the month we celebrate Thanksgiving. I believe it is important to be thankful every day of your life. I wrote this poem (text on image above) to remind me of this point. The poem is titled Life of Gratitude. The poem text is as follows;

Take these words to heart
Live your life with gratitude
Let it drive your love

This passage in Luke chapter 7 is a reminder of this.

Luke 7:40-48 KJV — And Jesus answering said unto him, Simon, I have somewhat to say unto thee. And he saith, Master, say on. There was a certain creditor which had two debtors: the one owed five hundred pence, and the other fifty. And when they had nothing to pay, he frankly forgave them both. Tell me therefore, which of them will love him most? Simon answered and said, I suppose that he, to whom he forgave most. And he said unto him, Thou hast rightly judged. And he turned to the woman, and said unto Simon, Seest thou this woman? I entered into thine house, thou gavest me no water for my feet: but she hath washed my feet with tears, and wiped them with the hairs of her head. Thou gavest me no kiss: but this woman since the time I came in hath not ceased to kiss my feet. My head with oil thou didst not anoint: but this woman hath anointed my feet with ointment. Wherefore I say unto thee, Her sins, which are many, are forgiven; for she loved much: but to whom little is forgiven, the same loveth little. And he said unto her, Thy sins are forgiven.

When you learn to be thankful you will to love much.

Photo Information

The background image excluding the text is by Manuchi via Pixabay.

The image shows a dark background with text in the center with a vintage inspired flower border.

Reflections: To a Joyful End

Getting saved from hell is easy, you only need to believe on Jesus Christ and admit you have sinned and call upon him to save you. However, being a follower is not so easy, going against the current culture can be hard. I wrote this poem to encourage myself on my journey as I follow Jesus. I wrote it to remind myself to keep my focus on the fact that no matter what I face in this life I will see Jesus at the end. This is a fact for every believer.

To a Joyful End poem text is bordered by a gold oval

You can read the full poem here.

I hope that this will be an encouragement to you in your walk with Jesus Christ.